In the classic movie Pee Wee’s Big Adventure, one of the most memorable scenes involves Pee Wee trying to inspire a waitress to follow her dream of moving to Paris, which goes comically awry.
Pee Wee: Simone, this is your dream. You have to follow it.
Simone: I know you’re right, but…
Pee Wee: But what? Everyone I know has a big “but.” C’mon, Simone, let’s talk about your big “but.”
(Simone’s boyfriend overhears this conversation, and subsequently chases Pee Wee in a murderous rage).
Despite falling a hair short of cinematic brilliance, Pee Wee’s Big Adventure stumbled onto something profound: the word “but” is a curse that hurts communication and undermines relationships.